Which is more important marriage or career?
Whenever I call my married friends especially female, they always have long list of problems of married life. One common complain of each female is sacrifice of career coz of marriage. They say we were better before marriage, there is no benefit of getting married.
So my point is which is more important marriage or career?
Both, as they supplement each other, even Ratan Tata says the same..
Do we really want to take advice from Ratan Tata who never got married :)
Either you learn by watching others make mistake or you can learn from your own mistake 
He he he.. Nice one cmvt..
There is no one right answer to this. 
All depends what is your priority in life. You need to trade-off between family and career.
In my opinion, at least one (and it need not be the woman always) has to have child-care as his/her first priority so that the other can concentrate more on earning. (And both the tasts are equally challenging). But a balance can certainly be achieved. (Like one of the partners working part-time and taking care of home). But you need to be contented with the balance. You can’t have best of both worlds always. You can have your tea with more milk and less tea (milky tea), or less milk and more tea (semi-black tea), but you can’t have a tea which has more milk and more tea. You must know what is your taste before ordering the tea.
And just curious to know….....why your friend who repent getting married, haven’t yet filed for divorceyet???? 
Believe me marriage has its own sets of gifts… may be your friends have just taken them for granted or they are’t telling you….
Hey some of them have taken divorce within 1 yr of marriage .. He he he.. I think now a days couples have ego problem..
LOL really, divorce within 1 yr!! Actually I think there is legal provision of 6 months' "cooling off" period, before the legal divorce could be allowed by court. So a divorce could take at least 6-7 months to get finalized. That means the couple decided about divorce, within 5-6 months of the marriage!! That is really quick decision. May be they were married against their wishes, and had other plans since the beginning itself!!
The best answer is "To each his/her own"
Do whatever you want to do
Then blog about it...would love to read your experience 
marriage is a honey trap.............
Hey Knitha, why u called marriage a honey trap?
Ok, put it in this way - marriage is a money trap (for some) and marriage is a ego trap (for some).
Both. Being independent is as important as being part of a family. Those who think that the current job is too hectic should have the guts to take a job with less work pressure even though that job pays less. something is better than nothing.
Each person has his own priorities. Just because I may prefer career over marriage or vice versa, it does not mean that one cannot choose to have both.
It's up to personal choice. I know women who blame marriage for having to give up their careers and I also know women managing both perfectly well. Your outlook is the one that determines the path you choose.
Hmmm.. Nice answer Shravya :)
Don't get married, don't marry and don't marry. Carry on with career, career and careers .
A young girl married to 90 years budda who is millionaire...after few days girl's school mate/friend came to know and asked her...abey pagli kya dekh ke is budde se shaadi ki . That girl simply replied...ek tho income aur doosra budde ka din kam . Then, all will be mine 
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Its like asking who do u think is more important - your mother or father? I think while it depends from person to person for me I cant choose what is more important. Both are like water and air to me
Just 2-3 days back, I have had conversation in a whatsApp group on this. A girl was cribbing(?), how girls always have to sacrifice career after marriage. How uneven it is. And how does even independent,educated women leave their career, in the name of Love and family. Her point was that, society is so patriarchal that girls are forced to ditch career after marriage. I had a hard time convincing her that most of the times it's true, but many times girls willingly do it! They willingly let go off career due to either their genuiene love for her husband, or for her kids. She was not convinced with the genuine love angle. And she was of the opinion that an independent, educated, earning girl can NEVER leave her career willingly, without being forced. I had a very difficult time arguing.
Then finally, a girl only came to my rescue, she explained that there are many kinds of girls- one set of girls no longer wishes to work after marriage (even though no pressure), their intention and wish is to enjoy at someone else's money; another set of girls, who don't work willingly in order to give time to child/family, and then yet another, who are forced NOT to work post marriage.... and then yet another set of girls who manage to do both!!
And I was like "Bingo!!", this couldn't have been explained better! So basically, that's the sad part of marriage, changes, accomodations, compromises have to be made by both the parties. Now who makes more accomodations, is another thing. (one girl corrected me that "compromise" is a wrong term. If you are "compromising" post-marriage, then there is no love left in the marriage!!).
From my point of view, the best would be that the women or man, any one of them could leave their job for a couple of years, post having kids. A child's formative years is very crucial. Proper nutrition and care is very important. After the child attains 4-5 yrs of age, both couples could start working again, juggling job and family together.
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Marry someone who respects your wishes, your dreams and if it's making career then that too. So, question isn't really about marriage/career , it's about marrying the right person or not. Just my opinion. I have friends who are married & are still working in MNCs happily even there in-law's are supportive.
And yes many leave the career happily for family. It's about personal choices. Career and marriage aren't always at the opposite sides, one shouldn't always be blamed because of another choice.
It is purely subjective. Experiences vary greatly from person to person. There is no concrete rule. Just the luck of the draw. 
It varies from person to person....some folks are very supportive while others are not !! Ppl change and so do their priorities.....
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To add my two bits to this conversation - It depends on what you want and who you marry.
If your partner recognizes your dreams and aspirations and encourages you to follow them, marriage is a good deal. But if no one from that side of the family is willing to support you then it's a struggle.
Things get more complicated when you have a child. The trick is to not try being the 'ideal' mother as defined traditionally but to carve your own path and have your partner on your side. If that doesn't happen, re-evaluate what is more important to you, take steps in that direction and live by your decisions.
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