Is winning contests greed? Should I stop competing because I have won few contes
Finally after few hate mails I got hate comment on my blog today.... This is what it says---
You seem to write only for contests and winning prizes. Your greed is making me respect you less and less with each passing day.Write your heart out just for the sake of venting out someday. That feels good too.
The much learned coward did not leave a name behind though. I would love somebody to come forward and tell it out in open so that I can answer that individual.
I have 200 posts on my blog, who could claim they were done for contests? If I win a contest and lose the anonymous respect, I would sure lose the respect rather than the contest 
. Somehow I thought it was contrary, you win and you win respect.
Competitions and contest are for showing your worth and winning. I do not relate to all the contests, but when I do, I write for them. Blogging is what I do; if I get recognized and appreciated in it, I feel happy and proud. Where does greed come in here? I am not stealing food being distributed for free.
I don't go around begging for votes or comments for my blog. One of the reason why my top voted post on Indivine is not from blogging contest. It is about my experience of going through cancer.
I have written in competitions where there are no prizes to be won on different platforms and won them too. Just because money is invovled here it doesn't change anything for me.. it may change something for those who are greedy. I try to win because I love to win. Be it blogging competition, my exams, cancer, quizzes, sudoku and any other challenge. My aim is to try my best and leave the results to God. I don't go around judging the judges and winners if I lose.
If my tiny winning of few blogs points to greed than what would the great great achievements of Sachin, Lata, Amitabh and many such great personalities be dubbed as?
People don't stop and let you win Anonymous, you need to prove your worth and achieve something.
You have to know that when they don't win, good people become better, unworthy people become bitter.
Great contest topics brought wonderful memories back in my mind, so I am in the game again. So that answers my own question. I shouldn't stop participating in contests just because I won few of them,neither should I stop when I lose few. Defintely it will be a time to stop when the contest says the winner will be with highest number of votes, likes or comments. 
Win or lose, I know those posts are something close to my heart and I am pleased I created it.
The contests on Indiblogger are so tempting, plus they also bring out such wonderful stories from people. I have read five great blogs today under expedia contest, just hesitating to mention it on forum because it would look like I am promoting friends. Glad to know that there are wonderful and wise people around the world who can strike a chord in our hearts even though we do not know them. Others have met them and shared their stories in such a way that I have learned something from them.
Farida JI!!!! congos over another win-win!!!!!!!!!! and OF COURSE you must participate in the Kissan contest too!!! waiting for your post :)
Just wondering whether I should participate in Kissan contest... Not feeling too good to come up with a post at present but then there is so much time left.
There are rude people everywhere, that's why I recently changed my blog name and URL. I think it's safe to assume that very few of our readers read every single post. However, I wish those people who didn't bother to read at least half of them wouldn't make unreasonable assumptions and then post negative comments to us. Now, I don't know about your niche but in mine there are 2 or 3 trolls who make the rounds between me and other bloggers in my niche and they only post hateful comments. It's best to just ignore them and then they go away. You don't have to keep reading their remarks. Install a platform like Disqus and it will let you block them by username, IP address and such so you don't have to keep seeing it when you get rude remarks like that.
I am sorry that someone has been posting hateful comments on your wonderful blog. It is sad that you had to change your URL.
I actually misunderstood that this could be the feeling going around most of the Indibloggers, which is the reason I gave a thought to it. One person's feelings and thoughts cannot be attended to by every blogger.
Good luck to you on your new blog.. Let me check this one out.
They hate me because they love me....:)!
People will wish you all the success, but when you get it, they start hating you! :)
Sorry : I don't remember the names of the people who gave these thoughts....:(
Whoever gave it to you.. are wise people. Thanks Mohinee.
Dear Farida Ji,
You are a fighter and you believe in proving yourself everyday. Very recently one fellow blogger suggested me to watch porn, the other commented trash without reading the original post. No point getting perturbed by comments like these.
Do you think seasoned bloggers like you need to bother ??If you get tempted to respond back you have allowed him/her to invade your personal space and hurt you.
Elephants walk and Dogs bark !!
this came to me as a shock! I am sure it is one of those rouges who could not stand loosing all the time. Everyone else have already shared the same emotions that I feel like sharing. So good luck for future contests, and keep blogging :)
One need not care for the words spoken by those who aren't dare enough to show their faces. The prizes that you have won till date are an appreciation of your talent and it is not greed in any way. And the hate mails and the comments are an indication that you are rising higher and higher. Keep Smiling! 
Thanks Ranjith. BTW taking your advice, I have started creating pictures for my blogs. They may not be very good but they are mine and makes my mind feel free.
I really wonder how you have mastered the art of drawing pictures with the mouse (that hardlyobeys my instructions) on the virtual canvas. The picture drawn for the KFC contest did look great....
Which one are you talking about? One of them, the one with snakes is done using software... the rest with Microsoft paint. How? Patience Ranjith patience ;)
opppss I forgot that there are 3 posts for that.. Most of my pictures are done on Microsoft paint and then given proper touch by my son who is doing Animation. The smiley types are made using software.
advice is free, and people likes to give it...most of the time anonamously...we all got our fair share of it...thinking about some of the comments i had in my post this comment looks decent
like you said, this anon is a coward...so why do you care? ppl like them exists everywhere, better to ignore...that's what i do (another free advise) ....
I can guess. You express your thoughts in a unique way and it would be tough for many people to look at the truth you hold to their face. I have to ignore him, what option do I have. Even if the intention is to hurt my feelings, how long will the hurt last? No person you do not love can hurt you emotionally.. my experience.
Thanks for the support.
Unless you appreaciate others success, you can never succeed in life. When you hate someone, its ought to rebound. I really feel sorry for Annonymous.
Do not hurt your heart or belittle your soul Farida ji for such comments/mails. No thing in the world can trample the light of genuinity, honesty and truth.. let alone such malices as jealousy and bitterness.
Please continue doing what you are doing in the very same manner that you are doing it.
You are one of the best here, one of my favorites and i wish you win many more contests in the future!
What you say is right Arti, but I have noticed in comments and blogs too that few indibloggers are happy about not winning contests, or we can say they are not happy about same bloggers winning the contests. I am used that feeling when I was in school ;)
Thanks for the compliments. You are one blogger I admire a lot.
Not a single thing wrong about mentioning your kids. I have been a mother to a small pup myself and have blogged proudly about it. Because I am proud of her, She has grown up awesomely and does awesome things which I feel sharing with people. You must be too (proud of your children) and hence blogged about it. Not a single thing wrong about it and that does not make anyone a bad human being.
Don't take hate mails too seriously. Hate mails (Esp anonymous) are signs of weakness themselves. You need to concentrate on a new contest that may come up now :)
I love both my kids equally. I blog a lot about my son, recently there have been many posts of him. I miss him a lot. This is the first time he has been away from home, but somehow it is my daughter who gets noticed. Weird people with weird thoughts 
. Thanks for the support.
I have my own inhibitions about the judging and the winning streaks, however, hate mails is something sickening.
Dhirubhai said : Hate mails is a sign of success. Jab aapki tarakki ho rahi ho, tabhi aapko kuch log hate karenge!
So keep blogging.
Varun, thanks for the encouragement. It is different thing when you question judging, or criticize a blog post. That is always acceptable to me. Anyone is welcome to go ahead and criticize my style, grammar or post. But judging 'me' for just competing in contest is something abhorable for anyone. There is lot more underneath my survival then what comes out on my blog. If only the anonymous could visit me once, s/he would know then.
No matter how much the person will say "I am not a bad person", telling me I bait my child to win contests is not a sign of good person. What do you say? As I mentioned earlier, I do include my son more than my daughter in my contest posts. My life revolves around my kids, how can I write without mentioning them?
We only need a computer to type out anonymous messages, a heart is optional.
Sour grapes I think. I had read somewhere that "if you don't want people to hate you don't win anything".
You are an inspiration to us. Your posts are well deserved wins. You have won so many contests so if you can share the secret of your writing winning posts all of us would benefit.
Thanks Bemoneyware. I will write a blog about it someday, but believe me it will be really stupid. I am an ordinary person with limited abilities, may be that makes me genuine.
There was no issue in the first place. May be I was a bit insecure or something to be bothered by it.
Anyway I feel it is mean to say I bait my daughter; even if the person confesses to be a good human being, I seriously doubt it. I write a lot about my son, especially most of my contest posts feature him. Why is that not bait? Just because he has no special needs? It is kind of discrimination running in blood. It has been a terrible struggle for me to make 'my society' treat my daughter with respect and love. Just because one loses a contest, one cannot touch that territory.
I hope bloggers understand that behind every blog there is an ordinary human being with a heart.
Now this was kind of Hilarious people. The anonymous commentor wanted me to earn his/her respect by losing a contest. Even Sheldon cannot beat that for sure... Here is the comment-
"You'd rather lose somebody's respect than the contest. There, you said it yourself.Anyways, I'm not a bad person, I respected you and your life a lot. But off late these contests are all that I see on your page.I don't like the fact that a person who I thought of so highly is so materialistic.That's it.Love to Rayyan and Farheena :)Take care :)I shall not bother anymore and may you win many more contests to come :)"
I thought may be I should answer and calm his/her nerves which seems to be on edge. Kind of feeling sorry for the person. So here is my reply
You need to earn respect yourself if you have to give it to someone. Do you have it? I wouldn't lose a contest to win your respect for sure. SNORT!
Why would I do that?
Accepted you are not a bad person. Just a bit immature.
I am sorry that you got to see a lot of contests posts on my page- blame the platforms hosting the contests. I usually write just one post for one topic, the recent contest has something which suits me. I am a fierce person with lots of incidents matching the topic in my life, so I had tough time choosing one ;).
What you like and do not like is solely your problem. Do you expect me to change for you? or change because you think I am materialistic? How many days will a contest win sustain us?
Thank you for all those good wishes.. contests come and go. I may win or not but I know I have it in me to compete and lose with a heart. Like DS said, I may lose contests but not my dignity by being anonymous hater of winner.
You seriously shouldn't have felt bad about in the first place Farida ji :)
Its good that you opened this discussion :)
It is not only about me, there has been the ill-feelings and critizing of the winning blogs too on the forums. They could not find fault with my posts, and may be have stooped low to pick up my situation. I cannot become a anonymous person without cancer tag or special needs child for the sake of contest. That is what I am everyday and that is what I am on blog. Indibloggers should stop being bad losers.
You are so right. It is nice to know how young and upcoming bloggers feel about us oldies. Thanks for the support.
halo mam,
I can understand the effects of that comment, certainly i appreciate you for creating the forum to make it clear...
1) people will always find mistakes, they see in that perspective to spot mistakes..
2)Others opinion will certainly have an effect on us, since we need some readers and some commentators to appreciate and correct us, we have to hear all those, be it appreciations or such strong contempts
3) i have also envied you for winning all the contests but i feel we should and we must have a STRONG competition, we should never let that envy spoil the relation and spopil our ethics.
No worries mam, even if you do good people will find mistakes and similarly for bad, i can personally tell that you do what you wish to... people will yell and curse us for different things :( we have to move on right ?You have talents and which gives you prizes as gifts, dont bother about negative comments mam :)
Your contest entries always raise the bar, Farida ji and you are wonderfully talented person. Dont bother about such cheap,hate comments. It just shows that the person is jealous and has very low ethics. Keep writing, keep winning :)
Thanks Abhi, that is such an wonderful compliment. Keep writing is possible, but keep winning is left up to fate and judges.
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